How to Find Mom Friends
Want to know how to find mom friends?🙋🏾 Before becoming moms, many of us had our core group of friends.👯 They may have included a blend of those we grew up with, met in school or worked with. You probably never thought you needed more friends, until the day your life completely changed and you became a mom.
While children are truly a blessing, being a mom is hard work. Lucie’s List has some great resources on how to connect with other moms virtually. Having a friend or two locally who can relate, can take the edge off the hardest of days, but many of us don’t know how to find mom friends. And is it possible to find other moms you actually like?
Here are 5 things to do when you desperately need to know how to find mom friends. These ideas can help you make mom friends you would call a friend, even if you weren’t a mom.
1. Put your dating hat back on
This is a high volume approach, designed to yield the maximum amount of local, mom friends.
If your child is in daycare, ask for the class roster with phone numbers and make your way down the list introducing yourself via text. Unless you have the same drop off/pick up times as other parents, it can be hard to meet other moms.
Get to talking in person and continue the relationship via text. You’ll quickly see who you click with and very soon, you’ll have one more mom friend in the books! See? We’ve only just begun and you already have a few ideas on how to find mom friends!
2. Leverage your resources
Before my baby was in daycare, I had zero local mom friends and I needed to know how to find mom friends, ASAP. So I leveraged my local resources. I signed my baby up for every single mommy and me class my town had to offer (many offered a free trial class so I wasn’t spending a lot of money).
Whether it is a music class, storytime at the library, breastfeeding class at the hospital, or swimming class at the YMCA, you are surrounded by moms who live locally! Exchange numbers and get to texting!
3. Join a mom group
There are national organizations with local chapters out there just for moms! MOPS (mothers of preschoolers), Mocha Moms, La Leche League, Mothers and More, Jack and Jill, Mothers of Multiples, Single Mothers by Choice, Holistic Moms, and the Moms Group.
When you want to know how to find mom friends, reach out to the organizations who are committed to doing just that— your local mom groups.
You can also do a quick search on Meetup using keywords such as ‘mommy’, ‘parent’, or ‘family’ and you might find there is a local mom group right under your nose!
Lastly, check out FB Mommy groups and the Peanut app which is designed to connect mommies. When I downloaded the app and started swiping, I was matched with 3 of my IRL (in real life) mommy friends! However, I’ve found more success posting a new thread in a mommy group chat asking if any moms live in my town, instead of waiting for the algorithm to match me with someone locally.
4. Walk around your neighborhood
The only thing better than having a mom friend who lives in your town, is having a mom friend that lives in your neighborhood. When exploring all the different options on how to find mom friends, this one has got to be the easiest. Why? You don’t have to worry about an awkward pickup line because you’re neighbors.
In addition to exchanging numbers, find out how old her kids are and if she knows other moms in the neighborhood (this question is key for growing your network!)
As your kids get older, they’ll probably end up on the school bus together, so take the proactive approach and start by getting to know each other now. Plus, by swapping out the car/bus/subway/train for a stroller, you are reducing a significant amount of stress in your already stressful day. Just remember this cardinal rule: always bring an umbrella.
5. Talk to your babysitters
If you trust a babysitter enough to watch the most important people in your life, your babysitter might have an inkling as to who might make a good mom friend for you. This is an underutilized yet effective tip on how to find mom friends.
An innocent question like, “do you babysit for any ‘no drama mamas’”, could be the lead you’re looking for. You could also give your babysitter permission to pass your number to that mom the next time he/she babysits for her. This works especially well if your babysitter is a teacher or teacher’s assistant at your child’s school. Then the two things you and your new mom friend already have in common are the babysitter and the school. ✅✅
Final Thoughts on How To Find Mom Friends
While many people encourage moms to build a network, few can actually tell you how to do it. Today you’ve learned that there are more than a few options that help you reach your goal when you really need to know how to find mom friends.
If your baby is in daycare, you’re going to reach out to the class moms. If you are a stay at home mom, walk the neighborhood to find your friends! If you use babysitters, ask them for leads.
Do some research online. You’re going to look for mom groups to join in your area as well as mommy and me classes in your town. When you show up, you’ll be surrounded by other moms with babies. Don’t leave without getting a number!
Once you find your mom crew, check out these tips to host an epic mom’s night out.